Friday, November 10, 2017

The Joy Of Manifesting Lost Change

As usual, I'm way behind on sharing my latest YouTube videos here on PP. A fairly new one that I posted a few weeks ago has to do with manifesting pennies and lost change in general. Now, this is a great little manifesting experiment that you can do if your faith is faltering with the "bigger" manifestations. I was feeling a bit that way recently and decided to have some fun: specifically, I wanted to manifest a penny...and I wanted to manifest it while out on a walk around my neighborhood this particular day.

Part of what prompted this manifesting desire as well is the fact that my friend Patti manifests pennies like there's no tomorrow. She's always finding them...even at nighttime recently after having dinner, she happened to spot one on the the dark. She believes they are a sign from her late dad (Pennies From Heaven, anyone?)

Anyways, I decided that it was my turn to manifest a penny. In a place where I've never seen any lost money in all the years I've been walking it. Did I succeed? Well, you'll just have to watch the video below to find out. And in the days and weeks that have followed since making this video, I have manifested a total of 25 cents...five pennies plus two dimes. All lost coins that I spotted in stores and in parking lots.

My next goal is to manifest a quarter. :) Have fun with this!

Sunday, October 15, 2017

The Difference Between I Deserve and I Am Deserving

Pop quiz: what's the difference between the affirmations "I deserve" and "I am deserving"? They sound the same, don't they?

Only there is a distinct difference between the two, which is what today's blog/video post is about (and by the way, I am still behind on mentioning every video I've been posting for the past month or so. You can catch up with any you've missed here.)

In case you need a refresher in affirmations, these are simply statements you make to yourself and that you choose to believe to see evidence of them manifesting into your life. I had never really heard or them and definitely never used any until I read Louise Hay's book "You Can Heal Your Life" ten years ago. 

So here's the latest PP video on the difference between these two affirmations, and why the distinction is so important (hint: one keeps you grounded while the other propels you to what you want.)

Sunday, September 10, 2017

Catching Up...

Hey guys, I'm WAY behind on getting my YouTubes shared here plus posts in general. About a week and a half ago my mother ended up in the hospital and required some minor surgery. She's back home and recovering nicely, but as you can imagine it threw my schedule way off course. I had already taken her to four consecutive doctor's visits before she admitted herself to the ER and had been driving back and forth into the city to get to the hospital.

Anyways, all should be good now but you can always catch up with my YouTube channel and the latest videos here.

More to come. I'll try to post some of the newest videos I have done and their relevant topics on this site this week.

Wednesday, August 16, 2017

Should I See a Psychic If I Use the Law Of Attraction?

Hey folks, I'm way behind on posting my YouTube videos to the blog (you can always see the latest ones here.) In this post's video, I'm talking about going to psychics and how they can interfere with law of attraction success. I believe I wrote a blog post on this very topic about a year ago, but wanted to make a complimentary video.

Long story short, I think you need to be careful about going to a tarot card reader, psychic, etc. to "check in on" how your manifestation is coming along. Because if these folks tell you what you don't want to hear, it can be crushing, and by looking for validation you're sending a message to the Universe that you don't trust it to work things out for you. And frankly, since learning this stuff I believe we create our future and destiny by what we're putting out there into the Universe. In my personal experience I just haven't experienced one that ever predicted anything accurate that came true for me, anyway.

Here's my take on the topic...

Sunday, August 6, 2017

Self Love and Overcoming Limiting Beliefs, Part 2

Hey everyone! I said I would film a part 2 just expanding a little but more on my last video about self love and discovering Agnes Vivarelli's channel, so here it is.

I'm 10 days or so now into sticking with Agnes' meditations and messages and all I can say is I truly feel like I'm back to where I was a little more than a couple of years ago. Completely at peace, leaving things up the universe, and just focusing on improving myself and staying happy and away from everyone else's business. I also manifested another on-going, fun, freelance writing gig where I have flexibility to work on as many assignments as I like until I manifest a full-time job.

I hope everyone had a lovely weekend. By the way, last weekend I finally went back to visit the submarine that I had talked about manifesting earlier in the summer. It was so cool. :)

Wednesday, August 2, 2017

Self Love and the YouTube Channel Changing My Limiting Beliefs

Hey guys, it's been nearly a month since I've updated my YouTube channel with a new video, and today's video is a precursor of a longer one coming soon. As many of you know, I've been trying to determine for two years now why unavailable men have been a manifestation given pretty much my whole life. I know I've made some posts and videos before explaining the reasons why I think it happened, until I started watching a wonderful channel last week by a woman named Agnes Vivarelli. Long story short, I can't stop watching.

Most of Agnes' channel is about how to manifest an ex (or as she likes to call them, a special person or your person) back into your life. I know what you're thinking; is Pam looking to manifest "Mr. S" (my nickname for the married guy) back into her life? Well, yes and no. I'll explain more in the longer follow-up video. You see, I was still feeling some lingering resentment about the whole situation...yes, even two years after the whole thing happened. Since I had sent emails that went unanswered, I felt that I didn't get the proper closure after my wounds had been reopened.

And every time something like this has happened, it reinforces negative beliefs I've carried since junior high in regards to guys...I'm not good enough to be someone's girlfriend, not worthy, not special enough...and if I had been, then I would have been married by the time I was in my 20s or 30s (I'm pretty sure I talked about this belief in my last video.)

Of course, it isn't true. It's just a dumb belief that got formed while young. But I'm working on releasing it, as well as some other limiting beliefs in this area, thanks to Agnes' channel. I also finally after all of this time forgave Mr. S for good. You can't attract anything until you stop feeling resentment and anger towards anyone you felt did you wrong...and until your self love for yourself is solid.

Agnes has a lot of fascinating videos about being secure and giving yourself love whether someone else it giving it to you or not. Her meditations are also very freeing; after listening to one of her self love meditations last week before falling asleep, I finally started to have dreams again after a month of not having or remembering any.

Anyways, here's a quick video about what I've learned so far...more to come soon!

Tuesday, July 18, 2017

How to Manifest Friends Using the Law of Attraction

I just joined a private Facebook group yesterday started by a law of attraction teacher I follow when I saw the following query posted by a fellow member: for those of you over 40, how do you make new friends?

She then ended her inquiry with this statement: creating real friendships at this age seems difficult.

It seems to me that she has some limiting beliefs that need to be cleared up, especially in the area of friendship. And she wasn't the only one; while several other members (including myself) chimed in with our success stories, several others said they had given up on the idea of making new friends, particularly after a certain age, which was a little sad to hear. Her question and statement also inspired a much needed blog post for this subject, so here we go!

In a nutshell, manifesting a good friend or friends is no different than manifesting anything else into your life...but just like manifesting anything, if you have limiting beliefs and resistance regarding friendships, you need to kick them to the curb.

Just listen to what she told us, that she believed to be true..."creating real friendships at this age seems difficult." That's a negative limiting belief, based on what she has recently experienced or experienced in the past. But there's no reason why anyone can't make a new friend at any age. Most of my mother's friends are ones she made within the past decade (keep in mind she's 87) when we started to attend a different church in town.

I went through some manifesting steps myself to attract my bestie Patti into my life as well as other gals I see far less regularly, but get together with on occasion, and several acquaintances through my Meetup group. Like anyone else, I've gone through ups and downs with friends and have lost friendships or just had people drift away, which happens often in life. But oddly enough, it didn't cement any negative beliefs in me in regards to manifesting friends...I'd had success doing it before, and knew I could do it again, and possibly attract people that may even end up being better friends than previous ones I had before.

For a while I wasn't meeting anyone in the original Meetup group that I ran that I wanted to do stuff with outside of the group. Or if I did, they had their own busy life and after a few social outings they just kind of vibrated away. I had no problem with this as I knew they weren't on my vibration, and that I would find new gal pals that were.

Then another Meetup group for women in my town needed an organizer after the woman that started it stepped down. I was already a member of it and stepped up to take it over. When attendance for the second "new" one seemed to be much better than my first one, I disbanded my original group (but not before letting all members know they could join the new one, and many of them already belonged to it.) Patti joined it, signed up for everything I organized, and after the first couple of events we just hit it off and started planning fun things to do outside of the group. She's everything I want in a friend including the fact that she enjoys chit chatting on the phone and catching up on a weekly basis.

So here's what I did, and the steps that I would recommend to anyone that wants to manifest meaningful new friendships into their life.

1. Forgive and Forget

A friendship is a form of a relationship, and thus it can really affect our emotions. Before you do anything, now's the time to clean the slate, let go of grudges and the past, and forgive any former friends (and yourself) for anything they did that you feel was wrong. LOA teachers stress this when wanting to attract a new romantic partner as well. If you learned a lesson that you can carry with you so any part you played in the friendship falling apart won't happen again, even better. But now's the time to wish any former friends well in your heart and let them go. The past is done; you're living in the present, so focus on living in it with a sense of renewal. And just because something happened to you in the past doesn't mean it's going to repeat itself.

2. Get Rid of Any Negative Beliefs

Most our of limiting beliefs seem to stem from observations and reactions we've made to less than happy experiences in our lives. If you think it's impossible to make friends after a certain age or if you believe you're an unlikeable person, then you need to drop these beliefs as they definitely won't serve you. Not once during my own process did I think I'd never find good friends again.

3. Try Not to Feel Lonely During the Friendless Period

You'll go through a period now when you probably won't manifest a strong new friendship right away, so start the friendship manifesting by being a good friend to yourself. If you feel lonely you'll only continue to attract feelings of loneliness, so try not to feel lonely if you can help it. Instead, be grateful for your alone time and use it to nurture your self love and catch up on hobbies you've been neglecting. Exercise, cook a new recipe, watch movies, finish a book you've been reading, love your pets, take care of yourself, and anything else that makes you feel good. There's an old adage that you can't feel lonely if you enjoy being with yourself, so work on that first and learn to be happy before the manifestation occurs.

4. Write Down (and Believe) Positive Friendship Affirmations

Grab a journal or a laptop when you're feeling upbeat, and make a list of friendship affirmations. They can include anything from "People enjoy my company" and "I'm a caring, compassionate friend that is respected by others" to "A fulfilling new friendship with the right person now brightens my social life." You can write them out and/or say them out loud, but the most important part is to believe that what you are writing and stating is true, and an undeniable fact!

5. Consider Your Friend's Attributes and How This Friendship Feels

Here's the fun part which really creates the manifesting...what kind of friend do you really want? What kinds of activities do you want to share with him/her? Be honest with yourself. If you're an easy going type that isn't into drinking and staying out late, but would prefer to do fun things during the day, then focus on feeling that kind of company and energy. If you like to do physical activities like hiking and riding your bike and would like someone to share this with you, then feel what that would feel like. The LOA isn't just about thinking; it's about feeling. It's the feeling that creates the vibration that causes people and circumstances to manifest into your life.

Likewise, whatever attributes you'd like in a friend, I think it makes sense that you need to possess those attributes yourself. If you want other people to accept you for everything that you are, then you need to accept your friends for everything they are as well.

6. Take Inspired Action

My inspired action was to take over the second Meetup group and then just post events that I wanted to do and that sounded like fun. You may be inspired to join (or organize) your own Meetup group or maybe join a new yoga studio, or a support or professional group. Whatever you do, do things that YOU want to do and that you get enjoyment from. Meetup is a great place to start and has groups in everything from simple social events to niche activities such as golf and foreign language enthusiasts. There's literally something for everyone in Meetup. Volunteering is also another great way to meet people and do something good at the same time.

One more thing...I really didn't spend TOO much time overthinking and over feeling the new friendship. I felt it a few times and felt good, then let it go and assumed it was on its way. In the meantime decided to enjoy life, whether I was doing something by myself or with the Meetup group. I'm finding out more and more (much like the submarine manifestation story I told a few videos back) that things we kind of think about lightly and have no resistance to totally show up a lot faster.

Have patience, have faith, and know that the right person or people will appear when you're enjoying yourself and not expecting it. Happy friendship manifesting!

Wednesday, July 12, 2017

Why Some People Lose It and Seek Revenge

I filmed this video over the weekend but haven't had a chance to announce it on the blog until today. My mother and I had to put our oldest cat to sleep on Monday so I just laid low on getting much done the past couple of days. This week's video is about what I feel is happening with so many people in the news lately that seem to be "losing it" and taking revenge on a former lover, employer, or other person or people they believe did them wrong. There's a lot to be said for being resilient especially in today's world and taking setbacks in stride and keeping an abundance-focused mindset. Anyways, here's the latest video from my YouTube channel, and I hope you like my crazy ass alien/insect sunglasses!

Friday, June 30, 2017

A Common Mistake People Make With the Law of Attraction

Happy Independence Day weekend! I actually filmed this video last week but am just mentioning it on the blog now; I had a very busy week with my freelance jobs getting work completed before the long holiday weekend. This video is just about a common mistake a lot of people make with the LOA...specifically, it's one that newbies make. Long story short, the LOA is a lot like working out and eating healthy: you can't do it for a couple of days, or a week, and expect everything in your life to magically transform overnight. Nor can you expect to go from a size 16 to a size 8 after a week of eating healthy and exercising regularly. It takes commitment and time to start seeing improvement and results.

Hope everyone has an awesome Independence Day and weekend!

Monday, June 19, 2017

My Cool Father's Day Weekend Manifestation Story

Happy Monday, everyone! The Universe is always reflecting and responding to what you are putting out there, always. This week's new video is about something cool that I experienced over the Father's Day weekend and quite honestly, this manifestation blew my mind! I won't give any of it away here in writing except to say it's kind of an unusual one, but here's the video if you'd like to hear what happened to me. Enjoy! P.S. I hope all of you enjoyed your Father's Day, whether you are a dad yourself or have one still with you.

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

How To Manifest Using A Journal

Hey everybody, I was able to email myself a quick video I did on how to use a journal to manifest. You can watch that below. I've since tried emailing myself other short videos but they're not going through for some reason. I'm focusing on finding a solution and am sure the universe will point me in the right direction, but I have the feeling I'm long overdue for an upgrade to my phone. I can no longer download most apps for it because nothing's compatible with it.

In the meantime, here's a video on using a journal to manifest; such a great law of attraction tool and one I haven't been using enough lately.

I'm feeling so wonderful these days; I've really been focusing on the feelings of being in a new relationship that's right for me this time and I keep seeing repeating/recurring numbers which to me is a sign that I'm in alignment (this is what most LOA teachers say it means.) I'm trusting the universe and will take inspired action when it strikes.

I've also started to work on updating my LinkedIn profile, resume, portfolio, etc. I really want a writing-related job, so I need to put some emotion into that area as well.

Enjoy the rest of your week, stay positive, and I hope to have another video posted soon!

Friday, May 26, 2017

How to UNmanifest Someone From Your Life

Hey guys, happy Memorial Day weekend! I have some bad news on the YouTube old USB connector/adapter had frayed wires so I had to toss it...and two brand new USB connectors are not being recognized by my laptop. Oddly enough, one can be read by my ancient desktop iMac...but when I try to copy and paste a video file to the desktop it freezes halfway through.

So, it appears the universe is telling me it's time to upgrade my laptop and mobile phone -- both are ancient by today's tech standards. I tried everything that I could including trying to email myself the file through my phone but the size is too big. It's back to writing blog posts until I figure out what I can upgrade to that's within my budget. I'll just keep telling myself that everything is working out for me.

Today's blog post (which I had recorded a video on) is about how to unmanifest someone from your life. I actually recently had success with unmaniftesting not one, but two people that were bugging me -- but I'm going to tell you a bit about only one of them, which was a woman in my Meetup group.

First of all, if you can remember the golden rule of the law of attraction...that what you focus on expands...then you're halfway there to solving your problem. Unfortunately for most of us when there's someone that's pestering the crap out of us, whether it's a coworker, family member, or another person we're forced to have contact with, our tendency is to ruminate on the pest and complain about him or her to our friends or anyone that will listen. That's the wrong thing to do.

So here's what I did that seemed to work...keep in mind if someone is truly stalking you, I wouldn't mess around; I'd go to the authorities. But this is simply a story about someone being a pain and overstepping boundaries.

I recently had to deal quite a few times with a woman in my Meetup group and every time she bugged me, I'd immediately complain to my good friend Patti about it. Patti belongs to my group as well and also cannot stand the woman in question, so naturally she'd add a lot of fuel to the fire.

What did this woman do that was so annoying? Well I won't list everything, but the first time I had a one-on-one conversation with her, which was at the second event of mine that she attended, I immediately sensed that something was off. She claimed to have left school at age 16 and worked in nearly every industry you could think of, and bragged (or at least, it seemed to come across as bragging) about all of these skills that she supposedly was quite experienced in. Most of them had to do with the computer which was ironic because when it came to setting up her own Meetup event on my group's website, she was quite clueless even when I emailed her screenshots with step-by-step directions.

Some people are just not on our vibration or wavelength, and this woman was one of them. The first time I met her, which was late last summer, she actually seemed pretty laid back and chilled. Then when she attended an event of mine in January it was like something had changed. She was simply exhausting to listen to and told me her entire work history at lunch after a museum visit, and it seemed she was bragging about a lot of stuff. I personally felt that she was insecure and looking to validate herself with others' approval. At a brunch event a month later she immediately launched into her work history again but this time with several other women listening while she rambled on for what seemed like at least ten minutes. She even told us that she was interviewing for jobs that paid $100K or more -- what? Who does that?

She texted me, left me voicemail messages, and strange comments on event pages. She even found me on Facebook and sent me a friend request, which I ignored. It seemed she was looking for someone to hold her hand and organize her events for her, which is not how I run my group. Every time it happened, I'd email Patti or we'd vent in person about how ridiculous this was getting.

Finally I said that we weren't going about this the right way. If we wanted to have minimal contact with this woman, then we needed to stop talking about her so much and focus on having meaningful conversations with other members that were easy going, secure, and pleasant to talk to.

And that's what happened. There was one event, a public dance, that she never showed up for, and we ended up having a great time with the other people at our table.

The next event she was RSVPd for was the Kentucky Derby party from a couple of weeks ago. Patti was dreading it and so was I, but I reminded myself to focus on everything else. I told the universe that we'd have a great time regardless, meet some nice people, and that maybe it could help this woman find another group that jived better with her. Honestly, I wished the best for her...everyone happy, everybody cool. No problems.

Well, she showed up very late to the party...maybe 45 minutes before the race was due to start. She had a gentleman with her and when she introduced him to us at the bat we were was her fiancé.

Keep in mind, she'd been single during the other events she attended just a few months ago, so this happened really FAST. On the way home I told Patti that I knew everything would work out; she'd be so consumed with planning a wedding and married life that I doubted she'd ever return for another event. Who knows; she may even end up moving away.

It wasn't easy to ignore the fact that she was attending the event, but I tried my best and perhaps that worked; that, and asking the universe to work everything out so that she'd be busy with other activities to occupy her time. I honestly do wish her well and hope everything works out for her...and now everyone is happy!

Thursday, May 11, 2017

Money Manifestation Success!

Happy almost-Friday for all you full-time folks! There's a new video up on the PP channel and this time I'm sharing some money manifestation success I had last week (yippie!) I can't believe I left out the best part of the third story, however...I went to a Kentucky Derby party with my Meetup group on Saturday, had a blast, and as we were leaving the venue saw some other patrons snapping pictures of the sky. A beautiful double rainbow had appeared just as we were leaving (I always think of rainbows as God's reminder that He's always with us; something I read years ago.) A perfect ending to a perfect day!

Anyways, a rambled on a bit here as usual but here's what happened to me last week. I'll make another video soon on specific tips and tricks you can try to create the feelings of wealth and abundance.

Thursday, April 27, 2017

New Video Post: Focus On What You Want and Leave Out the Unwanted Stuff to Manifest!

So here's the set-up for today's video, which I only half explained in the actual clip. Yesterday I was on the YouTube channel for a law of attraction coach that I follow that shared a new video about a client's success story. Said client was female and had set an intention to attract a relationship. Shortly afterwards, she met a great guy that she really hit it off with only to discover that he had a girlfriend.

I went off a little bit on this coach -- how could he possibly call this a success story when the guy she attracted was unavailable? He explained that she was going to fine-tune her vibration and journal about it to tweak things and that it was still a success story. This didn't make sense to me because after all, I had attracted a guy with pretty much everything I loved except he was married.

Then last night I was on Lisa Concepcion's channel (I just adore her and her energy) and watched a video she made a few months ago about the importance of focusing on the wanted aspects of something and forgetting all about the crap. And then it clicked with me.

I've realized that for over a year now I've been beating this drum (with friends and family) of "I attracted a married man" and had been focusing on that for way too long. But the truth is I couldn't see his good qualities and the ones that really resonated with what I want in a partner because I was still angry, hurt, and resentful. I still had some forgiving and letting go to do, and that took a few months.

Now that I'm back to thinking neutrally about the situation and feeling as happy as I was two years ago, I knew that I would be able to finally appreciate "S" and what was RIGHT and FELT GOOD about him and forget about the 3% of him or so that was undesirable.

What we focus on expands and continues to show up in our lives. So, from now on I'm choosing to focus on the wanted in a relationship and let the other stuff just kind of fade away.

Once I realized this yesterday it was like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. I have so much energy back, too...had a great workout yesterday with no desire to nap in the afternoon. My body physically feels lighter then it has in years -- that's the effect of letting go of unwanted crap and the past and raising your vibration!

So here's the video, and I'm grateful to have reached a point where I can finally feel happy and appreciative that I attracted S instead of wallowing in why it had to end. I still don't know for sure what I've been putting out there that attracted the unavailability but I've been working on myself and letting go of a lot of limiting beliefs these past few months, and I just KNOW now that there is an awesome man out there for me that has EVERY important quality, including being in a great place in his life and available to bring another person into it.

I've rambled on long enough here -- here's the video.

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Love Yo' Damn Self!

Instead of posting a new video this week I thought I'd share this particular one that I discovered on YouTube last night, by a law of attraction and life coach I just love named Lisa Concepcion. Lisa's energy is so enthusiastic and engaging that when I watch her videos I can't help but think how much I'd love to be friends with her, or someone like her. She just has such a high vibing zest for life and I find her messages very inspirational. If you're accustomed to more low-key people like me making videos then you're going to find her cranked up by comparison, but I really love the way she delivers this message about the importance of self love and how it will help you navigate your way around any BS in life. Indeed, having respect for yourself and knowing that you're worthy is the key. Enjoy, and I promise I'll be back soon with a video of my own.

Thursday, April 20, 2017

Why the Law of Attraction is a Lot Like Working Out

Hey positive people, long time no post! I hope to have another video up by next week but in the meantime, here's something I was thinking about today: the law of attraction is a lot like working out, or sticking to a health/fitness regimen. 

That's because the number one mistake most people make with the LOA is they give up on it way too soon. They decide to think positively for a day or two (not realizing most of the time that it isn't the thinking but it's the feeling and their beliefs that cause manifestations) and when they don't get the results they want practically overnight, they say "this doesn't work" and they give up on it. 

In a similar vein, how many times have you heard of someone that decided their going to work out, make their eating habits healthier, and then revert back to their old ways after a week or so (or even less)? They think results are going to come immediately and that their body will magically transform right away and of course, it doesn't happen that way.

It takes time. Likewise, it takes time to see improvement in your life from LOA. 

Both warrant a lifestyle change. The LOA really is a change in attitude about life on a daily basis, and it can't be temporary if you want to always be growing and improving your life. Just as you can't temporarily eat healthy and exercise and then decide to fall back into your old ways if you want a fit and healthy body. 

And both can feel strange when you first start doing them. One is a stretching of the mind and utilizing areas you've never used before. The other is a stretching of he body and utilizing muscles you may never have worked before. 

I bring it up because I had an off day today and kind of fell off the wagon. Now granted, I've been practicing LOA for a decade now so I definitely have been sticking to it. However, I still need help removing blocks in the relationship department and that's where I got a little stuck today. 

But tomorrow is a new day, and I'll pick myself up, remind myself that every day presents a new opportunity to get back on track and keep pushing forward. Just as someone would get back on the exercise and healthy eating routine after binging. 

You have to stick with it, and you have to make that commitment. No, you probably won't see results overnight. Many of us have too much resistance and blocks in certain areas that need to be removed. 

But just as there's a satisfaction to fitting into a particular dress size or seeing a target weight on the scale, there's immense satisfaction in being able to live the kind of life that you want. 

And so, I stick to it...stretching the mind and learning new tips and techniques every day. 

Thursday, April 6, 2017

The Power of Saying No

Hey guys, it's taken me a while to get a new video blog post up because I actually got sick again this week, although I'm now at the tail end of it. Today's video comes on the heels of something that recently happened to me, so I wanted to talk about why it's good to say "no" to certain people and situations that are just going to take advantage of you. Saying no to something that isn't going to serve your highest good is never a bad thing and sometimes we need to do it to have respect for ourselves. 

Anyways, sorry if I ramble a bit in this video, but I thought it would be a good topic to address (and I also needed to vent.)

Saturday, March 25, 2017

Proof That a Limiting Belief Can Be Debunked (Using Cats As An Example!)

I was on YouTube this morning when I saw the following comment left by a man on a channel I follow that is published by a woman in her 50s. The particular video he commented on was about being a single women over 50. (Keep in mind the woman that publishes this particular channel really rocks; she's very attractive, has a positive mindset, fit and posts a lot of videos on staying in shape after 50.)

"Janet, after trying dating online, I'm going to be a spoiler' of sorts and tell women over 50, we men are hard to find because WE DON'T WANT TO BE FOUND. That is not to say  we don't like women. We are a people that have learned to stay away from women and the 3rd wave of feminism. Now to counter 'missing' a woman. It's just a simple case of calling a pro like ordering a pizza. That pro doesn't come with demands of alimony, house payments, child support and a butt shaped like an '80's Buick.I sleep better at night now because , as it turns out, men age like wine and women age like milk and I no longer worry about being 'accepted' or rejected by the women of declining sexual market value. Women try to console themselves with little'Mr. Binky' or whatever and tell themselves they're not alone on Valentine's Day. Well, neither am I..... I paid good money ($400K) to live 300 miles away from my ex. A donation of 500-1000 per night is a bargain in comparison"

Damn. Does this dude have some serious bitter, negative, limiting beliefs, or what? I'm not going to judge him on employing prostitutes because frankly, he's in no good place to be dating anyway. But I couldn't resist leaving a reply and explaining that his negative beliefs are not serving him, and that not all women are gold diggers (nor does every woman past the page of 50 have a "butt shaped like an '80s Buick").

I get where he's coming from, though. He clearly went through a miserable marriage and divorce and got hosed in court. But it's really unfair to paint all women with the same brushstroke that he has...and even more importantly, it's simply not true.

After all, he was leaving it on the YouTube channel of a well adjusted, attractive, 50-something woman that isn't looking to take a man for all that he's worth! And he attracted the reply of a 45 year-old woman that has these qualities. ;)

And the sad thing is, because he has this kind of mindset, these types of women will continue to be attracted to him, just reinforcing what he believes.

It can be a very difficult thing to get over people that hurt us, and move past the temptation to paint everyone else in their gender as bad. I think quite often it's done because it's a coping mechanism and a way of explaining our victimhood.

However, I believe that any limiting belief we have can be debunked. We just have to remain open minded and ask the Universe for evidence.

Case in point...I remember decades ago there was a common belief in our society that men, in general, didn't like cats. Men liked dogs and women liked cats. It was a common refrain...from books...on TV shows and in movies. And I used to hear it from other women as well.

Then I learned about the law of attraction a decade ago. And at some point I tested the belief (which I will admit I probably believed a little myself, despite growing up with a father and brother that loved cats.) I simply told myself that there must be guys out there that love cats...if it was possible, then it had to be so. And I simply believed that the Universe would show me proof.

Proof did droves. After social media and the popularity of cat videos took off, I noticed lots of photos of attractive men with cats. I see YouTube videos all of the time by loving, male cat owners (I'm a big fan of Cole and Marmalade...and their cute "cat daddy", Chris!) My mother and I came across cat behaviorist Jackson Galaxy and his show My Cat from Hell on Animal Planet a few years ago. I'm connected to guys on Facebook that proudly show off photos of their cats. Guys are regular adopters of cats as shown by a few rescue organizations that I follow on Facebook. Furthermore, male cat owners are proud to be cat men. I could go on and on, but you get the picture.

The old widely-held belief that men don't like cats is history, and simply BS.

What limiting beliefs would you like to let go of? Think of the opposite, and tell the Universe it's giving you proof. 

Thursday, March 23, 2017

The Results of My 30 Day Happiness/Feel Good Experiment

As promised, here's a video blog follow-up of the results of my 30 day happiness/feel good experiment that I started in February. As you're about to find out, nothing really earth-shattering manifested (with that being said, I didn't set out to do this with the intentions of manifesting anything specific.) And yet...I kinda did manifest a couple of things related to my life's path. I explain more in the me; it's all good!

Monday, March 13, 2017

There's No Crying In Manifesting

I probably won't have a new video up this week so in the meantime, here's some food for thought via a quick written blog post: there's no crying in manifesting. Crying won't change your situation, but feeling better will. 

That's not to say that I don't approve of crying or believe that you should hold your emotions back. Sometimes there's actually nothing more cleansing then a good cry. In fact, I had one myself the other day during a very brief "down" period (the 30 day happiness experiment that I embarked upon was very challenging at times!) Some LOA experts believe that crying is a way of releasing resistance so in that case, you should release away! 

However, if you want to bring about change to a situation and manifest something then you just don't want to let that sadness linger for days on end. Because think about it: you need to act "as if" to help things appear in your life. And so...

If you had a burgeoning bank account, you wouldn't be crying and moping.

If you had the love of your life cuddling on the couch next to you, you wouldn't be crying and moping.

If you had that shiny sports car you've always wanted in your garage, you wouldn't be crying and moping. 

If you had the career of your dreams, you wouldn't be crying and moping.

Hell, no. You'd be happy! (Or ecstatic, or joyful, or excited, or whatever emotions come to mind when you get into the feeling mode of having your desire(s) already.)

This is why when I have those brief moments when I find myself in the "dark valley", I don't stay there too long anymore. I have the cry, I start to feel better, and I keep walking so to speak in the direction I want to be. 

To all of my readers in the northeast, stay safe during this week's blizzard. Also, dare I admit this? It may be a manifestation success story for me. I asked the Universe for another snowstorm so I could go cross country skiing again before the touring center's season ends on March 20. Yikes. I swear I only asked for just a few inches so that it would reopen; not a major blizzard with high winds and a foot and a half of snow -- be careful what you wish for!!!

Monday, March 6, 2017

Collagen Supplements Review

In today's new video blog post I'm actually not talking about the LOA, but about my personal experience taking collagen supplements for the past few weeks. I had been hearing about them for a while now; they're supposed to do anti-aging wonders for your skin, hair, and nails and I was curious to give them a try for myself. If you'd like to know more about these "magic" pills and find out if they really work, you can watch my review below!

Monday, February 27, 2017

How to Manifest An Ex Back Into Your Life With The Law of Attraction

Yep, we're going there today on the blog and the YouTube channel! I've been hearing a lot about this and while I don't have personal experience with it myself, I did notice some common factors shared by people that successfully manifested their ex back into their life (yes, it is possible...and it has nothing to do with a magic power or being able to manipulate someone's free will.) So watch the video to learn more...

Friday, February 17, 2017

The 30 Day Feel Good Experiment

Hey, positive people! Happy Friday. Recently I mentioned how I was starting a 30 day happiness experiment, and in today's video blog post I talk a bit about that and why it's important to try to do things that make you feel consistently good in order to manifest. I didn't get into it in this video, but some of the things I've been doing have been waking up and immediately thinking of many things to appreciate and be grateful for, listening to favorite music, blogging (of course), exercising, savoring delicious food, and more. In the video I talk about getting back into cross country skiing again as one example; I had forgotten how much I enjoy it.

By feeling good and pretending you already have what you want to manifest, you're raising your vibration to become a match to it. I also ended up letting go of a lot of negative resistance this week as I got a few days into this experiment. Anyways, I'll let myself take it away on the video below. Enjoy your weekend!

Monday, February 13, 2017

And the Breakthroughs Keep Coming: Six Reasons Why People Are Afraid to Get Into A Relationship

Just before writing this post I went on Google and typed in “afraid of being in a relationship.” One of the first results was an article on a site called Relationship Rules (“6 signs you are afraid of being in a relationship”.) There were a gazillion results with similar titles that came up, but I just decided to click on this one. And I have to say, given what I’ve been posting about on here the past few weeks, this one really hit home for me. 

Here are the six reasons they listed:

1. You haven’t made peace with your past. (You’re still haunted by certain past events.) 
2. You don’t think you can trust again. 
3. You think you’ll be trapped. 
4. You’re scared of breaking up. 
5. You’re afraid of sharing your time with someone.
6. The fear of your social life changing, forever. 

Wow. As I started to read through each page along with its explanations (and a “fix” for each issue which totally had to do with changing your mindset) the tears started to flow. I definitely checked off items 1, 2, 3, and 4 for me personally. 

The author that wrote this piece said they got a lot of emails from people that he/she could just tell were scared of being in a relationship for various reasons, so at least I’m not alone. 

I’m amazed by the strides I’m making in this area these past few weeks. So, I am giving myself a pat on the back for that and for choosing to explore this. 45 years old and I’m just figuring this all out now. Better late than never. 

Also, I have the law of attraction at my disposal, so I know that I can conquer my fears. I can’t expect to get completely past all of them overnight, but I can start right now with baby steps: writing down positive affirmations, both here and in my journal. Affirmations such as:

The past is over and done and has no influence on my present and future. 
The Universe always has my back so I feel nothing but courage and love.
I conquered a lack of confidence and self esteem with law of attraction, so I know I’m conquering my relationship fears.
I open myself up to trust and love from other people. 
I believe in myself…and I put my faith in the Universe. 

I also started a 30-day happiness/feel good experiment again (yes, despite a few tears I actually am happy and making a point to be so these days) so in my next video, I'll give an update on that and talk about why it's important to feel good. (I had started this experiment months ago but then fell off the wagon. This time I'm committed to doing it for a solid 30 days.)

Friday, February 10, 2017

Why We Attract Unavailable People

If you saw my last video post, then you remember how I talked about the exploring I did on why I seem to have attracted a lot of unavailable men to me through the years, and how I uncovered some childhood beliefs that I believe are at least partly responsible. As I mentioned in that video it was an epiphany for me...but recently, believe it or not, I had a second (dun dun dun!) epiphany that I think is probably an even greater explanation than my original answer. 

This came a few weeks ago when I was reading a blog post by a dating coach, David Wygant, who writes a site I'll pop in on from time to time. One thing I've noticed about Wygant's posts during the past few years is that they've taken on a law of attraction slant. In fact, he has written a lot about how important your mindset is when dating, your beliefs, and keeping tabs on any negative self talk. 

A month or so ago he wrote a post on the women's side of his site (he has since updated his blog so I couldn't find the post to link to it) about a woman that had written to him because she had attracted a married man online (sound familiar?) and she didn't know what to do. They (of course) hit it off, seemed to have a lot of online chemistry, and he lived one country over from her. He disclosed that he was married but wanted to meet her.

Of course, Wygant said HELL NO (in so many words!) but he also attempted to answer another question she had which was the real reason why she was writing: why does she keep attracting unavailable men in the first place? He said he really couldn't answer it since he didn't know her, but suspected that she has some kind of fear and by putting that vibration out there, she's attracting back men that are chicken shit. 

Think about it...what's another trait married people looking for affairs often share? In my original video I surmised that they cannot be trusted. But there's another thing they all have in common: they're scared. They're scared of confronting their spouse and telling them that there's something wrong in the marriage and they want to work on it. They're scared of hurting their kids if they ask for a divorce. They're scared their spouse is going to soak them in divorce court. They're scared that they're making a mistake if they leave their spouse, and they're scared that they're making a mistake if they stay. They're scared of all of the potential heartbreak and chaos that a divorce could cause not just in their own house, but possibly with their parents and their entire family. 

What does this have to do with me, and potentially other single people in the same boat?

Well, I admit I'm scared, too.  

I'm not so much scared of actually being in a relationship -- I want to be in a relationship. But I'm more scared of everything that could go wrong. 

We've all heard so many horror dating stories from friends, relatives, and acquaintances or we know peopler that have had their heart broken (or they have happened to us) and we're scared of it happening again. 

David Wygant told this woman she probably really enjoyed the online and over-the-phone flirtation with her married male friend, because it's "safe." He feels safe to her -- she can enjoy it but deep down knows that nothing will come of it, no actual relationship...just a roll in the hay. And that's why she attracted it--because it's easier than looking for someone available that can give her a real relationship and confronting all of the fears that come with it. 

When I first wrote about the married guy on here, I referred to him as "S." But f--- it, I see no good reason to keep him completely anonymous any more. His name is Scott, he's a police officer, and he lives about 350 miles from me. 

When I look back on the email correspondence and phone conversations, he was scared. He told me at one point that his stomach "had been churning for days" because he didn't know what to do. He said he had been "thinking about making some changes" in his life but clearly hadn't the guts to actually make those changes. He was awfully worried about hurting his kids with a divorce, and was afraid that it would mean "a hit to his wallet." 

I guess that's why I attracted someone that had some great qualities that I want except for the unavailability. I, too, felt that the brief friendship we had was fun and "safe" in a lot of ways, especially as I told him I would not meet him in person as long as he was married. 

I guess it's a self protection mechanism that gets activated at certain times during my life. 

I remember a job I had more than twenty years ago working at a hotel during my college years. I'd just had my heart broken and didn't feel feel like dating again yet. t loved flirting with one of the married security guards; it was a mutual attraction but I knew nothing would happen because this guy really did have a great relationship with his wife. But one day a cute guy from the catering department tried to chat me up when I was working in the gift shop. I think he was interested in me, but I was too scared to actually flirt back. I was afraid he was going to ask me out (and I didn't want to have to say no, even though I should have gone out with him had he asked.) Too scared of something going wrong later on down the line. Flirting with the security guard felt much safer. 

So where do I go from here? More working on dropping beliefs. More working on letting go of fear, "letting go and letting God" and trusting the Universe. Ironically, the whole situation with Scott eventually reminded me again that the world doesn't end when your heart gets broken. Maybe I'll eventually put up an online profile again on Match and see what happens. It seems to be the only way to finally change this vibration and break free of this recurring pattern once and for all. I know I can do it!

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Why Self Love and Narcissism Are NOT the Same Thing

A month or two ago, an article about people taking part in wedding ceremonies -- with themselves -- got shared on Facebook a few times. My friends that posted them thought the whole notion was weird  and many of their friends and acquaintances left comments saying how incredibly narcissistic this whole idea sounded to them. I tried to gently interject with my point of view on it (as I've been hearing about these ceremonies in recent years in the law of attraction circles) but it fell on deaf ears. One guy was having none of it; in his mind this was nothing but narcissism at an elevated, alarming level. 

Only it's not, and I'm going to explain why. There's a big difference between self love and narcissism, and even psychologists have recognized the difference for many years now. 

So I'll tell you what my personal definition of each is. Self love comes from within. It's caring enough for yourself not to put yourself down with negative words and to take care of yourself, emotionally and physically when you need it. It also means honoring the special human that you are...not in a (as Oprah would say) braggadocios way...but recognizing yourself and all of your gifts. Self love is incredibly empowering and it's not seeking approval from others outside of yourself, but giving yourself your own approval. 

Narcissism, to me, is the opposite. Narcissistic people lack self esteem and they seek approval from others. It is something that definitely does not come within...narcissistic people don't feel that they're good enough, and they want the approval of others (looking outside of themselves) to make them feel great about themselves and their life. They're prone to bragging. Narcissism most often always comes from fear, and there's nothing empowering about it at all. 

Now, back to the marrying yourself ceremonies...I agree that this idea sounds unusual and personally, I know I'd never have the interest in participating in one myself. But after reading about one law of attraction coach's experience doing it, I can understand her motivation about why she did. She'd had many failed relationships and realized that she wasn't going to have any kind of peace and finally attract the right man until she learned to love herself first. Like the other women participating, she chose a ring...not a diamond wedding ring or anything resembling one...but a plain metal band that had an inspirational word engraved on it. She didn't wear a bridal gown. She simply attended a brief New Age ceremony where participants promised to love, cherish, and honor themselves from that day forth.

And in case you're wondering, she is now married with three kids.

What she did was participate in a self love ceremony, and there's nothing narcissistic about that. It also doesn't mean that she told people she was taken or married; everything was purely symbolic. 

And time and again, I keep reading about how important self love is in regards to the law of attraction. Unless we can learn to love and honor ourselves first, we won't be able to attract other people that can love and honor us and provide us with harmonious relationships. 

So share the self love!

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

The Past Is Past; Don't Let It Dictate Your Future

Hi PP blog readers...this morning I made another video blog post in my car, but I actually think I'm going to hold off on posting it for now or I may re-record it since I feel like I rambled for a little too long at the end. Instead, I wanted to tell you a bit about some of the principles I was reminded of in a nice little e-book that I purchased and read this afternoon, How To Get Your Ex Back in 25 Days, by Veronica Isles. 

I know what you're thinking: what ex? Why did I buy this book? Well, I discovered Veronica's YouTube channel just before Christmas after one of her videos was recommended to me in the sidebar. And as it turns out, I really feel that her books (she has another one, by the way, called The 25 Day Challenge which is a companion book to the first one I mentioned and yes, I purchased and read that one, too) are applicable to any LOA desire, not necessarily wanting to get an ex back. (I've actually been reading it from the standpoint of attracting a new relationship.)

For example, the whole underlying theme of the book is letting go of the past. Letting go of the arguments you had with an ex, letting go of the thoughts that tend to marinate in our minds long after something has happened. "But he did this to me" or "she said that to me." Veronica reminds us that no matter what happened, no matter how nasty a breakup (or anything negative that happened in the past to us), that we have the power to change things all around. Our moment of power is always in the present moment. Ruminating on anything that happened to us or thinking about how we were victimized is going to keep the feelings of "I'm a victim" percolating and increase the chances of it happening again in the future. So we have the power to create a new, better relationship (or job, etc.) -- not the old situation that hurt us in the first place. 

The other theme of Veronica's two books is the importance of being happy now. Acting "as if." Finding things to be joyous about and at peace every day. Treating yourself well -- eating healthy, getting enough sleep, savoring a special dessert once in a while, etc. Her companion book has a list of several activities one can do during each of the 25 days -- whether it's morning, afternoon, or night -- to feel good and keep your vibration high. She also talks about letting go, trusting the universe, and believing in divine timing when receiving your desire. 

To be honest, I think she could have combined both books into one and there's really nothing new in them compared to the videos on her YouTube channel. But both books are the kick in the butt that I needed some days. I've written on here several times about the importance of letting go of the past, but I don't always practice what I preach. It's very easy to get upset again about things that happened in the past and question why things panned out the way they did. 

Reading these books and listening to Veronica's videos, I feel like any lingering sadness, resentment, anger, etc. has been dissolved. For good. Moving on and moving forward...

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Two Manifestation Success Stories

Happy New Year, everyone! The first video and blog post of 2017 is up -- in it I thought I'd share two manifestation success stories that recently happened to me. These came fairly quickly and easily and I explain why this happens with certain things that we ask for vs. things that seem to take a long time to come to fruition. May we all enjoy speedy manifestations in the coming year ahead!

Like This Post? Share It!

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...