Saturday, March 25, 2017
I was on YouTube this morning when I saw the following comment left by a man on a channel I follow that is published by a woman in her 50s. The particular video he commented on was about being a single women over 50. (Keep in mind the woman that publishes this particular channel really rocks; she's very attractive, has a positive mindset, fit and posts a lot of videos on staying in shape after 50.)
"Janet, after trying dating online, I'm going to be a spoiler' of sorts and tell women over 50, we men are hard to find because WE DON'T WANT TO BE FOUND. That is not to say we don't like women. We are a people that have learned to stay away from women and the 3rd wave of feminism. Now to counter 'missing' a woman. It's just a simple case of calling a pro like ordering a pizza. That pro doesn't come with demands of alimony, house payments, child support and a butt shaped like an '80's Buick.I sleep better at night now because , as it turns out, men age like wine and women age like milk and I no longer worry about being 'accepted' or rejected by the women of declining sexual market value. Women try to console themselves with little'Mr. Binky' or whatever and tell themselves they're not alone on Valentine's Day. Well, neither am I..... I paid good money ($400K) to live 300 miles away from my ex. A donation of 500-1000 per night is a bargain in comparison"
Damn. Does this dude have some serious bitter, negative, limiting beliefs, or what? I'm not going to judge him on employing prostitutes because frankly, he's in no good place to be dating anyway. But I couldn't resist leaving a reply and explaining that his negative beliefs are not serving him, and that not all women are gold diggers (nor does every woman past the page of 50 have a "butt shaped like an '80s Buick").
I get where he's coming from, though. He clearly went through a miserable marriage and divorce and got hosed in court. But it's really unfair to paint all women with the same brushstroke that he has...and even more importantly, it's simply not true.
After all, he was leaving it on the YouTube channel of a well adjusted, attractive, 50-something woman that isn't looking to take a man for all that he's worth! And he attracted the reply of a 45 year-old woman that has these qualities. ;)
And the sad thing is, because he has this kind of mindset, these types of women will continue to be attracted to him, just reinforcing what he believes.
It can be a very difficult thing to get over people that hurt us, and move past the temptation to paint everyone else in their gender as bad. I think quite often it's done because it's a coping mechanism and a way of explaining our victimhood.
However, I believe that any limiting belief we have can be debunked. We just have to remain open minded and ask the Universe for evidence.
Case in point...I remember decades ago there was a common belief in our society that men, in general, didn't like cats. Men liked dogs and women liked cats. It was a common refrain...from comedians...in books...on TV shows and in movies. And I used to hear it from other women as well.
Then I learned about the law of attraction a decade ago. And at some point I tested the belief (which I will admit I probably believed a little myself, despite growing up with a father and brother that loved cats.) I simply told myself that there must be guys out there that love cats...if it was possible, then it had to be so. And I simply believed that the Universe would show me proof.
Proof did come...in droves. After social media and the popularity of cat videos took off, I noticed lots of photos of attractive men with cats. I see YouTube videos all of the time by loving, male cat owners (I'm a big fan of Cole and Marmalade...and their cute "cat daddy", Chris!) My mother and I came across cat behaviorist Jackson Galaxy and his show My Cat from Hell on Animal Planet a few years ago. I'm connected to guys on Facebook that proudly show off photos of their cats. Guys are regular adopters of cats as shown by a few rescue organizations that I follow on Facebook. Furthermore, male cat owners are proud to be cat men. I could go on and on, but you get the picture.
The old widely-held belief that men don't like cats is history, and simply BS.
What limiting beliefs would you like to let go of? Think of the opposite, and tell the Universe it's giving you proof.
Thursday, March 23, 2017
As promised, here's a video blog follow-up of the results of my 30 day happiness/feel good experiment that I started in February. As you're about to find out, nothing really earth-shattering manifested (with that being said, I didn't set out to do this with the intentions of manifesting anything specific.) And yet...I kinda did manifest a couple of things related to my life's path. I explain more in the video....trust me; it's all good!
Monday, March 13, 2017
I probably won't have a new video up this week so in the meantime, here's some food for thought via a quick written blog post: there's no crying in manifesting. Crying won't change your situation, but feeling better will.
That's not to say that I don't approve of crying or believe that you should hold your emotions back. Sometimes there's actually nothing more cleansing then a good cry. In fact, I had one myself the other day during a very brief "down" period (the 30 day happiness experiment that I embarked upon was very challenging at times!) Some LOA experts believe that crying is a way of releasing resistance so in that case, you should release away!
However, if you want to bring about change to a situation and manifest something then you just don't want to let that sadness linger for days on end. Because think about it: you need to act "as if" to help things appear in your life. And so...
If you had a burgeoning bank account, you wouldn't be crying and moping.
If you had the love of your life cuddling on the couch next to you, you wouldn't be crying and moping.
If you had that shiny sports car you've always wanted in your garage, you wouldn't be crying and moping.
If you had the career of your dreams, you wouldn't be crying and moping.
Hell, no. You'd be happy! (Or ecstatic, or joyful, or excited, or whatever emotions come to mind when you get into the feeling mode of having your desire(s) already.)
This is why when I have those brief moments when I find myself in the "dark valley", I don't stay there too long anymore. I have the cry, I start to feel better, and I keep walking so to speak in the direction I want to be.
To all of my readers in the northeast, stay safe during this week's blizzard. Also, dare I admit this? It may be a manifestation success story for me. I asked the Universe for another snowstorm so I could go cross country skiing again before the touring center's season ends on March 20. Yikes. I swear I only asked for just a few inches so that it would reopen; not a major blizzard with high winds and a foot and a half of snow -- be careful what you wish for!!!
Monday, March 6, 2017
In today's new video blog post I'm actually not talking about the LOA, but about my personal experience taking collagen supplements for the past few weeks. I had been hearing about them for a while now; they're supposed to do anti-aging wonders for your skin, hair, and nails and I was curious to give them a try for myself. If you'd like to know more about these "magic" pills and find out if they really work, you can watch my review below!