Friday, June 17, 2016

Can You Change Your Voice Using the Law of Attraction?

I'm just going to lay this on the table and get it out of my system: if there's one thing that I could change about myself, it would be my voice. 

Right now, as things stand, I really do not like the sound of my voice. It's difficult for me to describe what it sounds like, so I will tell you this: a customer service rep once told me, in the middle of taking an order over the phone, that I sounded exactly like Fran Drescher of The Nanny.

I hated that show and I hated that lady's voice. It was worse than fingernails on a chalkboard. For the record, I actually don't think I sound quite as annoying as the nanny. But it is nasally and it is distinctive. And when I hear it come on the answering machine or have to record an outgoing message for voicemail, I cringe. 

When I was young the other kids in school used to make fun out of it. "Why do you have such a weird voice?" one girl asked me one day. I didn't know what to say. 

I've always wanted a deeper, sexier voice. Something like when Lauren Bacall asked Humphrey Bogart if he knew how to whistle: "You just put your lips together and blow." Or to be able to coo like Kathleen Turner as Jessica Rabbit, "I'm not bad. I'm just drawn that way."

The other issue is I've been told from time to time that I tend to talk on the loud side. Well, when you live with an elderly mother that would not hear a bomb go off without her hearing aids (and I am NOT exaggerating about the extent of her hearing loss) that'll do it to you. In fact, all of my siblings suffer from the same "big mouth" syndrome. 

So what to do about it? Well, I'm not suggesting that I believe the using the law of attraction is going to magically make my voice transform overnight. But speaking of Lauren Bacall, I was surprised to recently learn that she did, in fact, change her voice from a shrill and unpleasant one to the deeper and huskier one that made her famous in the movies. Director and producer Howard Hawks reportedly worked with Bacall for two weeks on vocal training to transform it. I have started to read articles and watch videos myself about what you can do to lower the pitch of your speaking voice and make it sound deeper and sexier. I am trying to be more mindful about the volume of my voice when out of the house and talk a little slower as well. 

I'm also grateful that it isn't worse. I could sound like Edith Bunker or Gracie Allen. So, I have that going for me. 

And the other thing I'm doing is simply trying to love this part of myself, even though right now I'm not that crazy about it. I don't have a choice but to make peace with it. Quite a few of the videos and exercises I've watched in this online "course" I bought for attracting a love relationship revolve around loving and accepting all parts of yourself, including your perceived flaws. I keep reading that your soulmate will love all of you, even the part that you consider your "fatal" flaw. My voice is definitely a unique part of me. 

From fatal to femme fatale...that is my goal, anyway. 


  1. Hello ^^ Did you have any success with this? I would like to change my voice too, but I have no idea about how to start.
    Hugs, Rafa.

    1. Hi Rafa -- I did not, but something better happened. After I started my YouTube channel I got a lot more comfortable hearing the sound of my own voice while watching the playback of my videos and realized it's not so bad after all. In fact, I learned to embrace it as something unique about me and just last week I got some nice comment from a viewer saying she loved my voice. So, that self love and acceptance will definitely attract people that feel the same way about yourself as you do. :)


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